Lindsey Knott's Naughty Space

You mean other than the CONSTANT texting, sexting, phone calls, outdoor chats while He vapes (it's not allowed inside where it can really effect the kids), and up until Lindsay's "narcolepsy" kicks in and she falls asleep? We are constantly talking, and yes, we know talking and communicating are two different things. In those talks when we have something important to say it is said right then. Unless it is something better done in person because we all know tones and inflection are not read well in texting, then it is said during Lindsay's nightly kneeling. The most important thing is that it is always said with respect. No matter who is saying it and who is receiving it. -Lindsay Knott & Dom Venom Want to join in on the fun? Visit  Loving BDSM  to sign up. Picture from  Serenity NLP  (yes I Googled an image ;) )

Oh, such a great question. I feel that Mr and myself have addressed this in a way. At the end of each night, I am supposed to get on my knees and undress him. After that I am supposed to tell him things that are on my mind, or stuff that is bothering me without reprocussions. A lot of times it is something to do with the kids that I don't think he is going to take kindly to, but it can also be about us. I am lucky enough that he listens to my concerns, takes it into consideration, and usually finds a compromise we can both live with. Ultimately, he has the final say, but that doesn't mean he doesn't listen to me. I think this is the reason our fights are few and far between. We have this time set aside where the topics that could cause a fight are discussed. -Lindsay Knott Conflicts are rare because of the way we handle things we both were in marriages that had huge communication problems. This is why we chose to do things this way. I feel if you just say what you need

I feel that even though they are separate things, they are tied together. Mr and I have agreed to guidelines of behaviors and habits that are appropriate, and when I fall out of those guidelines on rare occasion there is reprocussions. Usually nothing big, a conversation or a few spankings, and it's over. I have to say I am a good girl, and Mr is not too demanding. We don't like to be too serious with our interactions, we have fun, we laugh, and we make silly jokes at the others expense as long as it isn't "below the belt". Because of this I would like to say, unless my memory is wrong, I have never done anything that really warranted extreme corporal punishment. Except ask for it because I like it, but that is a different story. Our biggest rule is that there is no visible markings to out us, we do have kiddos that we share custody with our ex-spouses and jobs after all. I think whatever you and your partner have agreed to, is okay. Everyone is different. Eve

The Mr. and I have had numberous talks negotiating what our needs, wants, limits, expectations, and everything in between. Before you ask, yes, we do have a contract. The contract is mostly a set of rules and reoccurring tasks that I am to complete followed by the punishment that will be administered if I fail. It also outlines what I need from Mr as my Dom. Some punishments aren't even physical torments. For example, because I am trying to lose weight I have been restricted on my Pepsi intake. Because this is the ONLY soda I like, and I think the rest are awful my punishment for having more than I am allowed is I have to drink a the same amount of soda of Mr's choosing. To put this into perspective I hate Dr. Pepper so much I call it Satan's Cum. It's awful... and now I am getting off on a tangent. As for the kinky bedroom stuff, we are constantly talking about what we want and where we are on things. It's close to a daily conversation, okay maybe weekly be

This is something that has been a topic of discussion for us from the beginning. There are parts of our relationship that are very much Daddy/babygirl or Sir/pet, but we just don't like the titles. We continued this conversation in depth throughout the day when we had the ability to and this is what we came up with.  Here is what we know for sure He is a Dom and I am a sub. That has never been an issue. There is not a submissive bone in his body, and I am not cut out to be a Dominant.  Daddy/babygirl just feels wrong to us. Probably because we actually have a baby who will very soon be calling her dad "Daddy", and we both tend to call her forms of "baby". So that is out for us.  Sir/pet might be a better fit, but Sir just feels to formal for him, and I'm not completely a pet.  We are far from being a Master/slave. Even though in the beginning before what we know now that is what we used. After gaining some knowledge we realized that maybe th

I recently found the  30 Days of D/s  on Kayla Lords blog. I love doing things that makes Dom Venom and myself discuss and look at our relationship. So because he is so accommodating he agreed. We will be doing the challenge and sharing the responses that we feel aren't too personal. Submission. I have so many reasons why I do it, and it all boils down to one concept. RESPECT. Submission isn't what you see or read about in that story about the man with the monotone color last name. It's not what you see in porn. It is a couple coming together and realizing that at their core they are each part of a nice little puzzle. We both have our strengths, and we both have our weeknesses, but the beautiful thing is ones strength makes up for the others weekness. For example I have a weight problem I would like to get under control, but I have no self control. He does. When he says we are going on a walk or doing some form of excercise I do it. If he tells me I can only eat hea

I recently found the  30 Days of D/s  on Kayla Lords blog. I love doing things that makes Dom Venom and myself discuss and look at our relationship. So because he is so accommodating he agreed. We will be doing the challenge and sharing the responses that we feel aren't too personal. Day one: What Dominance Means to Me. Dominance is a wonderful thing to me. Feeling my Dom's power over me isn't about the spankings and bondage, that is just a fun and kinky byproduct. It's about him keeping me sane. As far as the rest of the world knows I am a strong independent woman who doesn't take anyone's shit. I dominate everything I do with our kids, my siblings, and at my work. I don't back down, and it tires me. I don't always like being the strong woman. I need someone backing me up, making the tough decisions, and holding me when the day has been too hard.  I also have no self control. I love my sweets and Pepsi and I hate the side effect of that. So H

It had been so long since Sandy and Sir had been able to play. Life had got in the way and she was ready to crawl out her skin with the need to orgasm. Sandy had the afternoon to herself, finally. The kids were gone, and she didn't have any other appointments to pull her away from the house. She knew she wasn't allowed to cum without Sir, but the need was outweighing her need to please and serve him. She made a decision. It's not like he was going to find out anyway, right? Sandy pulled out the toy box and found her favorite toy, her trusty rabbit. She knew it was cliche, but it worked and made her feel amazing. Sandy stripped down and got comfortable on the bed. The she slowly started sliding the toy inside while playing with her own oversized breasts. Pulling at her nipples as she slowly moved the fake cock in and out of her wet cunt. Eyes closed and imagining it was her Sir making her feel this way. She started moving it faster and turning up the intensity on the

Lately I have been feeling very needy as a submissive. I am craving a good spanking that stings and brings tears to my eyes. To be bound and unable to move. Really anything that brings the uncomfortable level to the max of what I am able to handle and gets me that kind of attention from the Mr. The craving isn't really the issue. I'm just trying to figure out the why. Is it because I really need it? Do I feel that Mr. and I are drifting in our D/s because we are unable to really have a good loud scene due to our living circumstances? Is it because I am stressed at work, or with the kids. Is it because Mr. has tasked me with immersing myself into the world of D/s via this blog and a Twitter account? There are so many reasons, and it could be a mix of them all. I think what it really comes down to is, I need my head to be quiet. There is so much going on in there and it needs to stop. Thanks for reading with my brain dump, and not judging me for it. If you have any suggestions

What is sub space? How does one get there?  Am I not functioning properly because I have never experienced it? These are questions that have been bouncing around in my head for a few weeks.  The Mr. and i have not been completely involved in the D/s world for long. Before we met each of us had admired from afar, but when we met someone who's dark kinky desires matched our own we decided it was time to take a leap. While we are very happy that we started the journey into this lifestyle together, we are running into the problem that neither of us has much experience. We have done so much reading and listening trying to soak it all in and one thing keeps popping up. SUB SPACE.   Could someone PLEASE help me figure out what it is, how to get there, or at least tell me I'm not less of a sub due to my lack of experiences? 

I've been putting a lot of thought into the who, what, where, why, and how of my individual journey into submission. Like was I always this way, or did previous experiences bring me to this lifestyle. After a LOT of thought and contemplation I have come to the decision that it was always in me. I remember as a young girl I always liked being the girl who needed to be rescued from the evil king or kidnapper. Not because I wanted to be a princess, I was far from that. I was a tomboy through and through. I wanted to be that "damsel" because even at a tender age it stirred something in me. It gave me a high that at the time I couldn't explain. Fast forward to the present and my favorite parts of the Ds world involve being bound in some way, shape, or form. The other stuff is hot too, but being bound will always be my favorite kink.

Sitting in a hotel room all by yourself is never all that it is cracked up to be. Especially when its it's one that is nice enough that you won't hate your employer for putting you there, but not nice enough to have things like a ways to stream to the TV. Not that any of that matters. I am stuck in this room without my Mr. who is 300 miles away. All I want to do is kneel in front of him. Take his cock into my mouth. Then proceed to service him until he pulls my face away. I want to be bent over and spanked until my ass looks like a tomato. I want to be gagged then forced to cum until I cry. I want to be reminded that I chose to submit to this man and by doing so I have given him the authority to treat my body, mind, and soul the way he deems fit. Sometimes that means holding me close and kissing my forehead. Other times, the kind of time that I am craving now, I am his fuck toy. My holes get filled. My ass gets smacked and whipped. My hair is pulled. My tits are twisted, bit, a

The Mr. and i have had a whirlwind of a year. W/we got married (YAY), moved in with the parents (BOO) so W/we can save to buy a house, and the biggest is W/we had a baby (MAJOR YAY). The baby portion really killed U/us on the D/s part of our lives. During the pregnancy i WAS NOT having any of it. The whole idea was a turn off. W/we knew it was my hormones putting me off so W/we waited it out. Then before W/we could really reconnect and get back on track W/we moved in with my parents, who have no idea that W/we have this kind of dynamic in our relationship. So W/we are having to find ways to be our truest selves, while not spilling the beans to my parents, and of course our kiddos. It is ROUGH. W/we are trying to figure out what i can do to feel submissive, how He can show his dominance, and how He can dish out some punishment when i am not behaving (or i am behaving, but want to feel that sting ;) ). Wish U/us luck. W/we are definitely going to need all that W/we can get in our current